Hottest Sexual Connection

A marvelous sexual connection includes different kinds of sex, even the ones you haven't dared to experiment with perhaps. Check out the different kinds of love making acts you and your lover can indulge in for a night of passion.

Experimental sex
Couples in long-term relationship often opt for this kind of act as they miss the excitement and lust filled initial-days of their relationship. With time, a couple's love life loses its zing and to get it back one needs to try new things. "Try pushing the regular comfort zones. It may mean trying a new position or a new room in the house; you can even go for thrilling experiences like making love on the terrace or in the balcony or at some public place." explains Meera Wahi, married for last nine years.

Necessary sex
Necessary sex can be explained as 'just-for-the-heck-of-it sex', which is vital for a long-term relationship to retain its sexual spark. These are your very special, intimate 'me-time' moments which relieve stress, burns calories and lift spirits. Supports Mihika, a 31-year-old, new mom, "As a new mom, I am tired most of the times. However, I make special effort to get going in the bed and this makes me feel closer to him. Even if the sex isn't that good, it feels like the relationship has become stronger."

Bummer sex
Admit it, for it's something that's bound to happen. An awkward grunt, a stupid expression, somebody walking in unexpectedly or may be slipping down the bed, all of us can have these embarrassing moments that we would like to ideally forget. Akhil, a 27-year-old choreographer, recollects, "We'd been together since last one year. The last time we were having sex, her roommate just walked in. We didn't know what to say. Finally I said, 'Whoops!' and we laughed our heart out. The voyeurism added to the fire, needless to say."

Vacation sex
A new, romantic locale often allows lovers to rediscover each another in a new light. Amidst trying different platters, adventure sports or checking out a variety of nightlife activities, every evening feels like a special date night. Vacation sexcapades act as a catalyst to reignite the passion in a relationship and make a couple feel more connected. "When on a vacation, you're at your most carefree best, which means you can try out new things you won't have to be accountable for at home. We went to Kerala on a friend's recommendation, and needless to say we had the best sex ever," shares Sidhartha, a 39-year-old business man.

Make-up sex
There is nothing like engaging in a sexual reconciliation after a long, gut-wrenching argument. The quality of such sex is directly proportional to the amount of time spent apart; courtesy - the phenomenal release of emotions. "After all the screaming and blaming is over and we proceed towards reconciling, I fall in love with him all over again. This after-fight sex gives me the same kick as that 'beginning sex' when we first meet. All of that anger is released into passion and it's like we just want to tear down the place," admits Mehul, who's been married for seven years.

Different Types of Orgasms

A lot of sexologists say that all orgasms are the same because orgasm happens in a part of the brain called the hypothalamus. Among its other jobs, the hypothalamus releases a whole mixture of chemicals during arousal and orgasm and in a sense, it doesn't really matter what sets it off.

This is one of the ways that some people respond to the idea that women are supposed to orgasm from vaginal stimulation — a holdover from Freud that we're well rid of. Since a majority of women need some sort of clitoral sensation to orgasm, this old-fashioned idea has caused a lot of grief, so some experts will say that all orgasms are the same to try to overcome it.

On the other hand, a lot of people report that orgasms feel different depending on how they happen. Perhaps using a vibrator feels more intense to you, or an orgasm during oral sex seems bigger, or a certain sex position makes the buildup seem milder. I've heard these sorts of things from enough people that I can't buy the "all orgasms are the same" argument. While I'm not aware of any research on this specifically, I believe that it's because sexual arousal happens in the nervous system, not just the brain. And the nervous system is distributed all over the body, so stimulating different parts of it creates different results.

There's a lot more variety in the ways that people experience arousal and orgasm than you might think. Masters & Johnson promoted a 4-stage model of sexual response: arousal-plateau-orgasm-resolution. But that was based on their observations in a lab, and in there are many different ways that sexual response takes place. In fact, we might experience different versions of it with different people or at different points in our lifetime, or even from day to day. Rather than comparing ourselves with something out of a book, I think we'll be much happier if we learn to enjoy what works for us.

So as far as I'm concerned, all orgasms are the "real thing." It doesn't really matter how you get there, as long as you're enjoying the experience and you're taking care of yourself. Just as you might enjoy different types of food or music, you can enjoy different types of arousal and orgasm. And while I don't think that it's important to categorize them, it can be really good to know how your different orgasms feel so that you can have the one that you want, in that moment, whether solo or with your boyfriend.

There are some great books with lots of excellent ideas, if you want to try some different ways to have fun. I Love Female Orgasm is full of interesting facts, useful suggestions, and lots of info on sexual pleasure.

Orgasms is a great guide to both female and male orgasms, along with some really useful tips you won't find in most other books. And How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure is written for men who want to learn new ways to please a woman.

Sexual Orientation

The subject of sexual orientation is one that is gaining prominence almost everywhere. From the news media to even discussions on the streets, many people are talking about the morality, legality, rightness and wrongness of the possible sexual orientations present in our world today.

By way of a definition, we will say that a person’s sexual orientation describes his/her emotional, romantic, and sexual attraction to individuals of a particular gender (male or female), both genders or neither gender. The question we are exploring here— “Is there a single Christian answer to sexual orientation?”— seeks to consider the Christian position on sexual orientation and how Christians must deal with matters pertaining to sexual orientation.

And for a subject like this, it is really a blessing to return to the very beginning— the Book of Genesis—for some insight into this question. In Genesis 2, we read about the account of Adam and Eve (the first created human beings, so we believe as Christians). In verse 18 of Genesis 2, God speaks:

"It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

In the wisdom of God, He created Eve to be that suitable helper for Adam. Still in Genesis 2, from verses 24 and 25, we read this:

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. 25 The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.”

These verses tell us something we need to understand even as we have received the grace of God that permits us to call ourselves by the name of Christ’s followers: Christians. These verses, together with other verses we will be exploring soon, tell us that for all romantic relationships, the established order as God designed it from the beginning was to have one man and one woman together becoming one flesh.

This was how it was in the beginning. This was how God created it in the very beginning, such that when He (God) had finished with creation, He saw what He had created, and said that it was very good.

But as we all know, very early on in the history of the world, sin entered into the world and distorted the perfection that was established by God. With sin came the lust of the flesh, the pride of this life and the lust of the eye. From that time onwards, the created order has been distorted.