Sex Attraction & Sexual Addiction

Those who experience same sex attraction should be treated with compassion, respect and sensitivity. There are many different forms of sexual behaviour, but there is a distinction between orientation and behaviour. The term homosexuality was first phrased in 1869. In essence, same sex attraction is not a sexual problem but a gender identity problem. There are ten times more men who identify themselves as homosexual than women.

There are four 'gay' myths: the first is that 10% of people are homosexual, the second is that you are born gay, the third is that once you are gay, you are always gay and the last is that homosexuality is normal in every way. Accepting these four premises leads to total acceptance in society. But science is constantly discovering new unknown issues about the human person. No genetic or hormonal cause of homosexuality has been proven.

The father's role in the family is to provide benevolence and strength. Mothers are to be wives to their husbands and mothers to their sons. When some of these important positions are missing or roles are reversed, this can cause problems to do with pyschosexual development. This can in turn cause a narcissistic hurt and shame for masculine strivings. A person can turn in on themselves for a striving for the sense of masculine or feminine. If the physical nature of the father son relationship is lacking, this can cause problems with self esteem. One man said to fathers, "If you don't hug your son, some other man will." Same sex behaviour can at times be an attempt to repair childhood emotional hurts.

A promiscuous 'gay' lifestyle brings considerable mental, emotional and spiritual problems. These include a higher suicide rate, a shorter life span, sexual addiction, increased narcissism/selfishness, isolation and depression, flight from responsibility and anger and contempt with self and the world. Medical and social evidence shows higher risks of HIV and other forms of cancer.

Those who experience same sex attraction need attention, affirmation and affection that will help to bring self acceptance. This good healthy affection will help to heal the hurts of the past with understanding and honesty. These are the legitimate needs for people with same sex attraction today.