Orgasm & Intimacy

Orgasms come and go - excuse the pun - but intimacy is constant and abiding between two people who know and love each other.

Intimacy is a state of mind that transcends the physical. It's a feeling that comes from knowing and loving your partner, and it can't be attained purely by physical stimulation. You don't need to love someone to have an orgasm, but it's impossible to be truly intimate with someone unless you have love, or at least great liking, for one other.

Intimacy comes from shared experience, and profound knowledge of each other. Intimacy is connecting and sharing on a level much deeper than mere physical sensation. It can be conveyed in a thought, a look, the lightest of touches. It's knowing what your loved one needs, sometimes before they even know it themselves.

Have you ever called your partner for no reason, on the spur of the moment, only to be told, 'I was just thinking of you?' That's intimacy, a sort of magic telepathy that brings you together when you need each other most. It's nothing to do with sex, but it's everything to do with loving and caring for your partner.

Intimacy is knowing you're never alone, even when your loved one is absent from your side, and it's just one of the privileges of being in a loving relationship. You don't need a partner for an orgasm, and you can't be intimate with yourself. Just as it takes two to tango, so it takes two to develop and nurture the special bond of intimacy in a relationship.

If you live long enough, there'll come a time when the sex has to stop, but you will never be too old or too frail for intimacy. In fact, as you get older, intimacy assumes even more importance to you as a couple. I'm lucky enough to enjoy both orgasms and intimacy with the man I love, and I hope that situation continues for many years to come, but I know that when the orgasms stop, the intimacy will still be there, and that's a wonderful feeling.